Let me tell you what REALLY creates lasting change in your life
I know you’re a brilliant woman leader at heart who came to this world for big impact and to live life on your terms. Welcome to the sisterhood. You are not alone!
This is a new world. We’re the first generation who had real choices as women to compete in a man’s world and frankly, we’ve found it to not be all that it was cracked up to be!
Where is the joy? Where is the bliss? Where is the room for free expression and celebration of women for the brilliant creatures they are? Where is the room for our fierce free leadership and life on our terms on the side?
The world isn’t embracing us with open arms as yet, so we have to be the trailblazers, the ones who create the way. The new way.
So, let me tell you what REALLY creates lasting change in your life.
1. OWN THAT YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE THAT WAS LAID OUT FOR YOU (OR BETTER SAID, CHOSEN BEFORE YOU CAME)
You can spend a lifetime trying to squash your brilliance into a box or square or any other object that is made for someone else to fill and you will never experience the joy, passion, abundance, and amazing brilliance of life that you desire all together because that vehicle isn't yours to drive.
You have a path that is yours and you must find it, and get on it to unleash ALL that you're desiring. It's just not how it works to have lasting fulfilment happiness and success by jumping on someone else's bandwagon. That seat is taken. Claim your brilliance and seat on your own train, come on brilliant lady, it's right there waiting for you to claim.
2. YOUR MIND WON'T GUIDE YOU TO YOUR UTOPIA OR YOUR BLISS
Your mind only knows limitation. It only knows what it's learnt from others. It can only guide you to model your parents, or the world you knew when you were growing up. It wants so much for you to stay safe and well, but it won't lead you anywhere other than safe and well, that's the highest hope you can hope for using this part of you as your map.
As the brilliant women we are, our innate super powers reside in the part of us that is all knowing, all connected, and is frankly the most kick ass sat nav a human being can have access to - our innate knowingess to follow our dreams and our heart as the beacon and sat nav of our soul. The thing is that this part of us whispers - it doesn't scream at us like our fears and sense of inadequacies.
But there's lots you can do to turn up the volume of your soul based sat nav.
3. YOU'VE GOT TO SET UP SPACE TO HEAR THROUGH THE BULLSHIT OF ALL THE REASONS WHY YOU CAN'T
Back to the mind again. It has our back on this whole life and death thing, but really, it's role stops there when it comes to creating a life of meaning and fulfilment, and owning that we were born for so much more than we're currently experiencing.
It won't be ok for you, you know, to get to the end of your life and never have found that calling, that reason, that motivation that has whispered to you your whole life to step up on to the big stage, it won't be any comfort at the end of your life to have searched for it all this time, and for that calling never to have materialised and been created.
Owning that you want more, that you're here for more, and you don't have the guidance you need activated to get YOU there is the most powerful declaration you can make to yourself.
Why? Because it gives space for the guidance and the access routes to your greatness, to the missing pieces of the puzzle to come forward and be presented to you.
Assuming that you know is actually one of the most disempowering states a human can occupy because it utterly blocks out the possibility of receiving the highest limits of what you came here for to do. It says, in other words, I'll just take this here, and now, what is safe, what I can work out, what I can take a safe punt on that I am able to do, and right there you have once again condemned yourself to smallness. To your personal prison.
Your sight is really limited. What you see and believe is limited. There is vital information that is available to you when you're open enough to hear it and receive your path. And for that to happen you must clear the space in your mind to be the receiver of your life.
Working it out based on what you know is soooo boring. Dissatisfying. And a TREMENDOUS waste of your potential.
4. OWNING YOUR BRILLIANCE AS A LEADER REQUIRES YOU TO RECOGNISE YOUR BRILLIANCE AS A LEADER
Potential and follow through are two separate issues. You can have the potential to do many things. But how do you act on that and realise that potential when you've never done it before?
It'll be a long wait to one day JUST wake up and be brilliant. It simply doesn't work like that in life. You've got to go out there and practice. You've got to take a leap of faith. You've got to jump off the proverbial cliff and figure out how the heck to do what you need to do along the way.
That takes more than just courage; it takes incredible faith. It takes incredible faith that what you have to offer matters, it means something and, without you actualising that potential, the world will be worse off for it.
And that knowingness doesn't come to you in the corners of your mind. It comes from an inkling, a push, or a pull, a calling, an orientation towards a leadership position that is calling your name and then you must dive into the deep end, clothes on, rocks in your pockets and figure this shit out as you go.
Life doesn't come wrapped up for you in a bow on this path. It's messy, challenging, blissful, euphoric, soul destroying, liberating, rebuilding, all of those things, all at the same time, and with that, this life comes with a tremendous sense of being alive.
5. YOU MUST BE SUPPORTED ON THE JOURNEY BY THOSE THAT GET YOUR GAME OF LIFE
Your soul wasn't born to play this game of life alone. There are others out there just like you that share your drive, share your magnificence, see the world exactly as you do at their core, and their support is the best life line, raft and support orientation you can possibly bring into your world.
You are human. Not a machine (as much as you would like to believe otherwise by how hard you are on yourself). You will have brilliant soaring days and you will have days you're too shit scared to get out of bed.
Your drama will not be your sisters' drama though at any given time. Be surrounded by a group of women that can properly and practically support you when you want to jump off the train of life back into the safe lane temporarily.
We all do it. Be buoyed up and supported to jump back on to living your A-game life.
6. LET GO OF ANY NOTION THAT WHAT YOU WANT IS RIDICULOUS AND NOT MEANT FOR YOU
You will waste precious moments in your life and world on self doubt. Clarity of your direction is essential. It's absolutely ESSENTIAL. And that clarity has to be sourced from within you to keep going on your path to your success and your road to influence and impact.
It's only going to get too much to bear, life that is, when you can't even own for yourself that you want these brilliant and magnificent things.
You'll always be waiting, you'll always be looking around for the love and the satisfaction and real growth when you shut off your connection to you.
When you hide away your inside world from others and yourself, you cut off from life and all of its meaning. No wonder you're so dissatisfied.
7. HUMAN BEINGS ARE BOUND TO FAIL AT SOME POINT
The course of life is not meant to run smoothly. It's not meant to go from A to B uninterrupted with no adverse consequences or learnings.
Where would your growth come in? How would you be the person you need to be to lead others and the masses if you hadn't tripped and fallen and overcome your position? What would you possibly have to share?
The desire to NOT FAIL that keeps you stuck, small and playing life exceptionally safe has nothing to do with your fear of failing and everything to do with your mind's fear that you're not enough or have no real value in the world.
Facing failure is the closest form of facing death for the brilliant women I'm speaking to (and I mean that literally from the perspective of the ego). No wonder you fear it so badly, but you're not going anywhere in life without failing along the way.
Owning that you want more and having the courage to face failing and what the story is that really sits behind that fear is an unleashing of your potential that you've not yet experienced because you're opening up to experimentation and seeing what works for you (and not just staying in your head desperately mapping everything out).
8. SUCCESS IS ONLY SUCCESS IF IT IS SUCCESS BASED ON HOW YOU DEFINE IT
Please. Why would brilliant women like you even think that getting to success as defined by another was possibly ever going to fill up that brilliant heart and soul of yours? It's too generic to put us all in the same box.
Leadership is about leading on what matters to you, your heart, your soul, that moves you and resonates with you on a deep soul level. You opening up to yourself and your real desires is the day your life starts to mirror everything you've ever wanted.
It starts with an inside commitment to only live a life that is meant for you, that fuels you, that honours you and that's all there is to it. That ends in one moment that sense of wanting "more".
Why? Because you're already connected to your "more" and your world unravels and unwinds in that direction as soon as you start and commit to creating it.
9. LONELINESS IS A SYMPTOM OF LYING TO YOURSELF
Loneliness reveals to you that you are not honouring yourself. You're cut off from your truth, your loves, your meaning in the world and there is no connection you can have truly with another when you've lost yourself to you. They won't find you either!
Stop lying to yourself in whatever form that takes for you. I'm not brilliant enough. People might think I'm a fraud. My dreams are a fantasy. I've lost my way. My life has been a failure. I'm not where I need to be.
Honour where you are.
Choosing to make the change is the only thing that will shift things anyway. None of that is true ANYWAY. It's part of the lies and illusion you're lost in and telling yourself - it's not really what sits beneath you, beneath the surface.
You KNOW everything you need to know when you're tapped in and connected.
That's the beginning and end of everything.
10. NONE OF THE OTHER "TIPS" ARE POSSIBLE WITHOUT A HEALTHY, ACTIVE AND REGULAR INTUITIVE PRACTICE
The one and only way to be truly, properly and always guided in life is to tap into your internal sat nav system. It sees through the lies and illusion of the ego, it tells you the path, and more importantly it tells you where you're headed (or where you'd love to be headed when you have the courage to overcome the screaming voice telling you "no").
I really don't recommend walking through life blind mind. You'll only ever create what you THINK is possible, not what you know to be real and all yours for the taking. Man, life is confusing without this skill, this innate skill we all have, activated and in use as your sole guide (or soul guide, lol).
Seriously brilliant woman, stop settling for what's limited in you, everything you've been trained to do, that you think is possible and stop chasing what is eluding you.
You are the creator of everything you are experiencing. EVERYTHING you're experiencing reflects an unconscious choice of yours. You'll never know the limited game you're playing in life and why you keep hitting those proverbial walls until you activate this SUPERPOWER.
KNOWING what is meant for you and FOLLOWING the path to go get that in your life is the ALL. It's the only thing really.
Unless you can come up with some other reason we roam the planet - to me it would all seem rather pointless if that was not the case.
P.S. Have you taken the quiz, How To Be The Woman You Were Born To Be, yet? Who were you born to be and what is stopping you from being that woman today?
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